Warning: Explicit content ahead.
Perhaps the biggest secret – the open secret – is that men and women are very different, especially when it comes to what they find “hot” or a “turn on”…both in and out of the bedroom.
When men think about doing something “hot” for a woman, it usually involves some form of maneuver to be executed between her legs.
But, that’s not where she wants you to be. Not yet anyway. There’s a lot of work to be done, – elsewhere on her body, that can get her more ready than immediately poking and prodding between her legs.
You may have gotten her naked. (If you haven’t yet, perhaps one of our ‘seduction secrets’ reports may be of use to you.) She may even be able to see the desire and excitement in your eyes.
And yet, that is not enough to get her to let go fully, so she can really enjoy herself the way she would like to.
But, not to worry. With the tips and secrets revealed below, straight from real women who are eager to “help you to help her,” you will be able to give her amazing pleasure…and stand apart, from the rest of the men from her past.
Let these women show you exactly where most men go wrong, and what they most often ignore…so that you can really get her “red hot” and ready to explode with ecstasy…
Stacy, 28, admits that her fingers (not yours) can get her incredibly wet. But, not in the way you’re thinking…
“Men always ignore a woman’s fingers,” she says. If she’s lucky, a guy will stroke or caress her upper arms for a little bit, and then quickly move on.
Yet, almost no one, except for an older gentleman she briefly dated, ever looked at her fingers…let alone kissed them.
Just like Stacy, most women complain about how often their fingers get ignored.
“Sometimes, when I would be driving and my ex-lover was sitting in the passenger’s seat, he would take my hand and start to gently kiss of my fingers.
It would send shivers through my body. And, I would find myself getting wet very easily. We even had to pull over once, so he could finish the job.”
Here’s how it’s done…
The next time you’re about to have sex with her, take her hand in yours. And start to kiss the backs of her fingers, with slow, soft, kisses.
Keep it dry, you don’t want much (or any) saliva at this point. Open your lips slightly and gently run them across her index finger, as if you were licking an envelope – but without using any tongue.
Give her knuckles some attention too. And especially attend to the webbed areas where her fingers meet each other. You can use a little bit of tongue here, just to get into the grooves.
Then turn her hand around. And kiss the fronts of her fingers as well as her palm. Don’t rush any of this. Take your time with it.
You could even gently bite the fleshy part of her palm, just below her thumb.
Then, kiss her wrist using quick, short pecks. Then, kiss once more as you gently push down with the tip of your tongue.
If she’s like most women, she will start to get very wet down there. And, her breathing will get heavy, to match.
From here, you can continue to move up her arm. Kiss all of her.
You can even bite the area where her lower arm joins the upper arm. (The area exactly opposite to her elbow.)
But, again, be gentle. And, don’t leave marks.
Be a Vampire… Please
Long before the teenage vampire silliness came to be, women craved attention to another sensitive and sensual area of their body…
This next highly-ignored area, according to many women, is the neck, of course.
“A guy could get me soaking wet just from kissing my neck,” says Jenny, 36. “But, they rarely spend more than 5 seconds there. It’s not that hard to get this, is it?”
Yes, a woman’s neck is more of a hotspot than most of us realize. And, most of us pass by it quickly, somewhere along the way when we’re moving from her upper lips to her lower ones.
Vampire scenes from movies and books aside, the neck is seen as a very vulnerable area and often protected, or at least covered up by something.
And as such, it becomes a very sensual and highly-sensitive area to explore.
“If a guy were to approach me from behind and start kissing my neck, I swear I would melt in 2 seconds flat,” says Shawna, 24.
Here’s how it’s done…
Start by kissing her lips – but no tongue yet. And no saliva yet, either. Just wet your lips enough so it’s not dry.
Without going too crazy with the lip-kissing, slowly move to her neck using this maneuver: gently but firmly grab her hair from behind, and use it to gently tilt her head back so her neck is exposed. (The hair-grabbing and neck-exposing move may already get her aroused.)
Then, go in for the first bite, or taste, rather. Without using your teeth.
Start kissing all over her neck, front as well as both sides. But, move around slowly and gently. Cover her entire neck with kisses, and a few licks and nibbles here and there.
You can even let your nose and cheeks brush across her neck area as you kiss and nibble.
Don’t get too crazy (read: too rough) right away. Let her tell or signal you. Most working women don’t want their necks to be marked up at all. So, be gentle…unless she tells you to bite harder.
Giving attention to a woman’s neck is more about being sensual than being erotic. And for this very reason, this often-ignored (or quickly passed) area can create some serious heat for her – in all the right areas.
Of course, you can try Shawna’s favorite move by going behind her now, and doing another “grab hair, tilt neck” move and play the vampire for a moment.
You can also take her hair up and kiss the back of her neck, and even blow on the area immediately after kissing it. The warm air from your mouth hitting the slightly wet area on her neck (left by your kisses) will send the right kind of shivers down her spine.
You can even take things up another notch by whispering into her ear… with a little dirty talk…and telling her what you’re going to do to her later.
And, if that’s too much for you to handle right now, don’t force yourself into doing it or it could backfire. Instead, just whisper into her ear and let her know how great she smells, how much she turns you on, how beautiful she looks, etc.
Be Gentle and Rough… But Gentle
As touched on in the previous section, gently but firmly grabbing her hair can get her going even before you do anything else.
Why? Because, women have an innate desire – and a strong response – to being “taken” by a strong, confident man.
It may go back to the cavemen days, we don’t know. What we do know, according to women themselves, is that they like a man to make her feel weak – in the bedroom – especially if she is stronger or bigger than you (physically or even social status wise.)
The popular words and phrases such as “take me,” “ravish me,” and “sweep me off my feet” are all signs pointing to her wanting to feel like, well, a woman… while the man takes control.
It goes without saying that being rough has nothing to do with hurting her physically in any way.
However, being a little rough with her (without hurting her or causing serious pain) is a turn on for most women.
Just be sure to turn her on in other ways first. Her threshold for pain can increase when she is aroused (and even fast and hard penetration can occasionally be a turn on if she’s already aroused.)
You already know about the gentle but firm hair-pulling.
There are lots of other ways to do it… besides the usual spanking and biting…
If you already know that you can lift her up easily, you could grab her while you’re kissing her and guide her to wrap her legs around your waist. Then, walk up to the couch or bed where you will continue.
Or, you could even stay in the “her legs wrapped around you” and lean her against an empty (and safe/smooth) wall as you continue kissing and fondling.
From a sitting position, pushing her down (slowly) towards the bed, with your forearm across her chest as you kiss her on the lips can be a huge turn on.
If she’s laying on her back, you can grab her legs, just below (and under) her knees and pull her towards you before you enter her.
A great way to bring this about is to switch between being a little rough/aggressive and then being sensitive and gentle. Switching around in this way will also keep her on her toes, and she won’t expect what’s coming next (which is usually a good – and rare – thing for women, during sex.)
Become an Ass Man
Women love it when you give her butt some attention, including women who don’t particularly think their butts are sexy.
But, again, it’s not the kind of attention you may be thinking of.
Grabbing her but during intercourse can be a turn on for many women. But, you can give her butt some attention even before you get to the penetration stage.
Have her lay on her tummy, and start to kiss the back of her neck. Then, slowly move your kisses down her spine till you get to her butt.
You can bite and nibble on her ass gently. Rub/massage it, and even spank it just a little. (She may or may not be into spanking, so do very little of that at this point.)
If she’s on top of you, you can grab each of her butt cheeks with each of your hands – and pull them apart, while she straddles you.
You can even give her butt some attention out of bed. Grab it or slap it playfully – but only when no one can see you do it. (Done secretly, it can be a turn on. But done in public and you may just embarrass her or make her feel self-conscious.)
If you do happen to be in public, you could brush your palm against the side of her outer thigh, and give her the look that tells her you would much rather be grabbing her ass.
If you’ve watched Pulp Fiction, you may already have an idea of just how serious (and sensuous) a woman’s feet can be.
A woman also carries a lot of tension and stress in her feet, especially if she has to stand all day or walk in heels.
So, give it lots of attention.
“A guy can easily get into my pants if he knows how to touch my feet,” says Rekha, 24
As you work your way down her body, from her face and lips, don’t set up camp between her legs.
Surprise her, and give that area just a little attention, then keep moving lower.
Kiss and lick her inner thighs, and especially the back of her knees. Gently bite her calf muscles, as well as her Achilles tendon.
Then, give her feet a nice massage (one at a time, obviously.)
Start with an overall massage. Then squeeze her toes together – gently. Massage her Achilles tendon area and her heel.
Dig / push in and slide your thumb prints across the sole of her foot, as if you’re squeezing a tube of toothpaste. Just be careful not to grab the top of her feet too hard with the rest of your fingers.
The right kind of attention given to her feet can turn a woman on very much.
But, don’t just give her feet attention during foreplay and/or prior to having sex.
You can make her very happy by doing this outside of the bedroom too, especially if you don’t appear to be doing it just to get her to drop her pants.
And, if you don’t get to enjoy some hot sex immediately after you give her a surprise foot massage while you’re sitting on the couch, you can be sure that she will pay you back in some delightful way the next time that you do have sex.
That, young padowan, is the final lesson of the day… turn her on even when she’s out of bed, and she will reward you in yummy and juicy ways, for giving her pleasure when you didn’t really have to.
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